Are you dating a Yoruba man and you want to know what to do to prevent him from leaving you or cheating on you? Here are some few tips on how to keep a Yoruba man.
Dating a Yoruba man requires a combination of art and science. Although dating and relationships in the Yoruba culture have moved on from what it used to be. Due to westernization, most people don’t hold on to the strict rules of culture anymore. There has been a lot of compromise and adaptation to western trends. But no matter how much things are changing, some things are still very crucial and preserved when it comes to relationships. There are some things you must do if you want to keep Yoruba boys even in this new age.
Tips on how to keep a Yoruba man
You might not need to do some old practices like having to kneel down to give him his food, call him sir, etc. But there are still some things you must take note of to keep a Yoruba man. So, if you are dating a Yoruba man and you are having troubles here are some helpful tips. And even if you are not having problems in your relationship this article still can be very helpful for you.
Be very respectful
Respect is something that is taken seriously among the Yoruba people especially when it comes to relationships and marriage. A wife must respect her husband both in public and in private. If you are not yet his wife, you must respect him if you want to make it to marriage. And not just him alone, you must respect his friends and family which includes his parents, siblings, and extended family members.
You must show him respect in the way you speak to him especially when you are speaking with him in the Yoruba language. Also, you always have to kneel down when you greet him although most Yoruba men don’t require their women to kneel down when greeting them these days. But you must kneel down when greeting his parents or elderly members of his family.
Learn to cook or improve your cooking skills
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It will be very difficult for a lady who cannot cook to keep a Yoruba man for so many reasons. Firstly, Yoruba men don’t like women who can’t cook. And when we mean cook, you must be able to cook very well and be ready to cook for him always. Also, you need to know how to cook his favourite Yoruba meals. A Yoruba wants to be able to come home and have a good meal. Most Yoruba men are not fans of eating out.
Another reason why you must know how to cook is that his family and friends will always come over once in a while. And if you don’t know how to cook, he will be embarrassed. His family will not even allow you to marry him and if you are married already, well good luck to you because you will not find it easy with his family members. We can assure you that you will want to know how to cook so he will not prefer some other woman’s food to yours. So, if you don’t know how to cook especially Yoruba cuisines you had better start learning now and always look to improve your cooking skills.
Always try to be on your best look every time
Yoruba men like beautiful ladies. What they like in terms of body features vary from men to men but your look must always be appealing to him. This I believe is common to all men anyways. So, you should learn why he was attracted to you in the first place and try to keep the look and shape as much as you can.
Do not be lazy
Most typical Yoruba men believe that a wife must always do all the house chores especially cooking, cleaning, washing, etc. So if you are lazy or you don’t like doing house chores, it will be very difficult to keep a Yoruba man.
Keep your place tidy and clean
Another quality you must possess to keep a Yoruba man is cleanliness. Most Yoruba men cannot stand a woman who is not clean and tidy. So you must always keep your place clean and tidy when he comes visiting if you are not married yet. And if you are already you must keep the house you two share clean and tidy always.
Be easy going, don’t be a troublemaker
Most men don’t appreciate troublemakers. So don’t make troubles with him even if he is wrong. Try to find better ways other than nagging and complaining. Of course, sometimes it is very difficult especially when emotions run high. But remember wise women know when words can make the situation worse or ruin a relationship, keep their man.
Have less male friends
Unlike the western culture, most Yoruba men might have a problem with you keeping male friends once they start dating you. It may not cut across all. You can have male friends but not as very close friends.
Learn to sing his praise, treat him like a king
If you are conversant with the Yoruba culture and you can sing his “oriki”, it can be an added advantage. But if not, just learn to adorn him with praises and make him feel loved and respected.
Be loyal to him
Loyalty is necessary to keep a Yoruba man. So in every way possible, you should always be loyal to your man. This will go a long way in helping you to keep your man.
Lastly, if you are a religious person, always pray to God to help you keep your man. There is a general notion that most Yoruba men like women and will most likely cheat. Although this is not entirely true. But anyway, if you are a person of faith, you can pray to God and trust Him to help you keep him.
You might not need to do all of these to keep your Yoruba man but you will surely have to do at least fifty percent of these things. Also, if you are not married yet, keep in mind that after you have tried all you can to make sure your man stays with you, but you still notice signs that he will not always stay by your side, please don’t force things. And when there are red flags, don’t ignore them and don’t try to force things so that you will not regret it later on. Some relationship just can’t work and there is no need to force it. We wish you eternal love and all the best in your relationships.
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