Let’s face it. Whether you're having it or not, sex does play an integral role in the world of dating today.
Once you become sexually active, you begin to operate on certain assumptions about what you feel others are doing sexually, what men do and don’t want and what you believe sustains a committed relationship.
Here are top sex myths that just aren't true;
Myth 1: The Hookup Culture Is Everywhere
These days, pretty much everyone’s having sex while dating, right? Wrong! The hookup culture is more urban legend than reality. You have this belief that most people are having more sex than they are. Men included! Since the perceptions exist, many women feel pressured to have sex well before they’re ready.”
Myth 2: Sexual Chemistry Helps RelationshipsWhen women are debating casual sex, many will say sexual chemistry is an important deal breaker for them. But, does it really determine whether your relationship will thrive or fail? No-way. Many women believe that jumping into bed very early in a relationship is the best way to test sexual compatibility. I’m sure that men created this myth! If this theory were true, the people who did not test their sexual chemistry before committing to each other would therefore have shorter less happy relationships.
Myth 3: Women Have Sexual ‘Needs’
Women have their sexual “needs,” just like men do, right? Wrong again! Wanting sex is less physical and more psychological where women are concerned because they have very different sexual needs than men. Women respond to sexual opportunity. For women, feeling turned on by a man has an important psychological component. It’s often an extension of their emotional need for companionship. Some research has found that women often desire to be desired, and that’s a whole lot different than a biological desire for any sex with anyone. Still need more proof? Then ask yourself this, "Why haven't drug companies been able to come up with a drug that enhances a woman's sexual libido, only men's?".
Myth 4: Sex Leads to Love and Longevity
There are many important and valid reasons to wait to have sex with a man you deeply care for, but here’s one that’s often overshadowed: Good sex doesn’t make him care for you any more than he did before you do it!
Slightly more than half of women in their 20s believe that a sexual hookup can be a stepping stone to a serious relationship, but the research shows something entirely different. Having sex early on in a relationship, good or bad, is bad for the relationship.
We know what you’re thinking: What about the men who insist that intimacy will bring them closer to a woman? Are they full of it? Yes! The more sexual partners a man has had, the more he perceives diminished attractiveness in each new mate. Therefore, sex does not lead to love for a man. If a guy is a player, sex leads to disdain for you, because he’s looking for something that doesn’t exist, and he thinks he’s going to find it by more sexual conquests. Men fall in love because of trust, not sex!
Myth 5: Promiscuity Can Be Turned Off
Did you know that sleeping around now can and will create trouble for you when you decide to commit or marry? Real talk! Faithfulness is a learned behavior. Many of the women I’ve spoke with told me that they’re just hooking up because they’re auditioning mates but they’re confident that when they commit they can be faithful. Again, the research doesn’t support this! These women are training their bodies to be future cheaters. We can train our body for almost anything. The only way to train for monogamy is either to abstain from sex, or be monogamous.