Does he need to know I had an affair with his best friend?
This past April, I broke up with my boyfriend of five years. I had been living with him for more than two years, but I broke it off and moved out for a number of reasons. One reason was that I needed to know what life was like on my own. I'd had a boyfriend since I was 15, and at age 26 I needed to be comfortable with myself and figure out if he was really what I wanted. I had doubts. So I moved out, and we broke up.
While we were broken up, I had an affair with his best friend. We'd become close over the last year through email, spending time together and so on. He wasn't happy with his life and neither was I. We supported each other. He was, and still is, a great friend, but now my boyfriend and I are back together.
He knows that I dated a few men while we were apart, but he doesn't know that I slept with his best friend and I am not sure that I should tell him. That's my problem. We're living together again - and we're talking about getting married in the next six months. I'm ready. I know that I am, I've never been more in love or confident of anything in my life. But my boyfriend says that when the time comes, we have to come clean and get married without any secrets.
I think this secret should stay with me till the grave. Any thoughts?